Fives

A. What has to be learned in personal relationships.

1. You should ask for what you want. No one can guess.
There is the story of a couple that would eat chicken every evening. He would eat the breast and she would eat the legs.
One day he slipped out that he preferred the legs, but knew that she always ate them and so he compromised.
She jumped and said "What ? I prefer the breast".
20 years passed and they never told each other what they really wanted.

2. You have to learn to accept "no". Here you got up the courage to ask for what you want and got a refusal.
I said above to "ask". I didn't say to "demand"

3. You have to learn to say "no" to any request with which you really are uncomfortable. This is what is taught in lessons about assertiveness.

4. You should learn when to say "yes" to requests that are not that uncomfortable in order to strengthen the bond of friendship
I love it when my children (and others) ask me for something that I can say "OK".

5. Sometimes when you ask for something and you receive a "yes", and you don't know what to do about that.

These are what you learn when you play my game of "suggestions". I will talk more about that later.

B. The levels of the ability to relate to society.

1. Those who think that life is shit and there is nothing to do about that.

2. Those who either naturally or went to a seminar where they learned that life CAN be beautiful. However when they come back from the seminar they slip back into the first level above.
They see only the possibility of attending more seminars.
This is my level. I am natuarlly like that and I also attend seminars.

3. Those that really learned from these seminars or have the natural ability to glow with love and make all the others who they meet also feel loved. This is on a one to one basis.

4. These are those who not only glow on a personal basis, but also know how to create a society (not only a family) that supports loving. There are very few who are at this level. They are called "gurus". In Judaism they are the rabbis of Chassidic courts.

5. The highest level is to know how to educate. Their is something lacking in an educational system where the teachers have NOT reached level "4"